I admit it. I love those crazy TV shows where creative people compete in order to win a prize. I have a few good reasons, to me, for enjoying this guilty pleasure.
However, I have to clarify. I passionately dislike shows where abuse is heaped upon the contestants, or among the contestants, and accepted in the name of winning. Because to me kindness and grace are the keystones to good behavior and happiness, these are not the shows I watch.
However, I do understand that every good story, therefore every good show, has situations and people that test the character of the participants. It is what they do with that test, and how they overcome it in order to express their gifts in a genuine (kind and graceful) way so that others may be inspired by them that interests me.
This is one reason I loved MasterChef 2012. In that season, Christine Ha, a kind, grace-filled woman, who – incredibly – is also blind, won the cooking challenge. Everyone watching that show must have learned of the possibilities of expressing and sharing their gift against all odds. When others excelled, the camera caught Christine smiling in pleasure at their achievement.
However, one of my favorite shows is Project Runway. I love the creativity, and the unfolding of the participant’s gifts and skills. Whether they win or lose doesn’t matter as much as how they grow into their talent.
As a coach, I appreciate learning more about how to help others by watching how hurdles and pitfalls are overcome and then used as stepping-stones to a better life. Then there is the beauty, wit, and charm of Heidi Klum. She adds elegance to every scene.
Most of all, I watch because of Tim Gunn.
If you know of Tim Gunn, you don’t need me to tell you why I admire him. If you don’t, I suggest you take the time to find out more about him.
However, it is what he did in a recent show, that clearly demonstrates what kindness and grace looks like in action. It is what has made him permanently one of my favorite people. He used his Tim Gunn Save.
Here’s what happened.
The judges eliminated a contestant, Justin. Every other contestant was heartbroken. They huddled around Justin, crying because they didn’t want to see him leave. Sure, it often happens that teammates find it hard to say goodbye, but this was a genuine sadness. He had won all their hearts by being kind and grace-filled. Just because he had tried something new, and it hadn’t worked, was to them, no reason for losing him so soon.
They weren’t alone in this. The live public opinion meter on the TV screen showed that 85% of the public also thought the judges had made a mistake.
Into the room came Tim, just as heartbroken as the rest. Visibly distressed and moved, he used his one save for the season and put Justin back into the show.
I sighed a big sigh of happiness and thought how often we all need that Tim Gunn Save. We can use it on ourselves. We can use it with others.
The good news is that we can use ours as often as we wish. Since watching that show I have used it for myself a few times for things I did that made me feel as if I had failed at a task. I have a few deeply buried mistakes I am going to dig up soon, and give myself a Tim Gunn Save for them.
Then I am going to look deep into my heart and see if there is anyone else I have been harboring unforgiving feelings about, and give them a Tim Gunn Save.
We all sometimes make mistakes, and we all occasionally need a Tim Gunn Save. Imagine what it would feel like to have people believe in, and support you, even after making what appears as a mistake, and then to have Tim walk into your life and give you another chance.
It’s really like that you know.
Divine Love believes in all of us. As we exhibit kindness and grace, Love will always walk into the room and give you and me another chance. Tim has given us a wonderful, and very visible, symbol of what that looks like, and for that Tim, I thank you.